Relationship Issues and Child Birth

So, here is one advice if there is any taker. 

As I have been open to receiving requests from people going through Relationship Conflicts, I have received quite a lot such consultation requests in recent times where people want to know what is causing problems in their relationship life Astrologically and what they can do to improve things? People were also open to know if there is any hope of improvement in future in their current relation or not?

But in some cases, people going through relationship crisis also asked for the time when they can plan for their child birth? Somehow I find it illogical. I understand that most of people are committed to fulfill desires of their parents or grandparents or society at large but still such request doesn't make any sense to me when you are going through a relationship crisis. I have 2 reasons here -

1st is that when your relation itself is problematic then your 1st priority should be to take measures to improve it. Be more accommodating or adjusting with each other. I don't understand how a child birth can improve your relation. For few months, the child birth may distract your focus from your relationship crisis but after 6 months or an year, you will be again dealing with same issues with an additional responsibility of child.

2nd reason is more important as it effects the child's life itself. As I understand, a child born out of parents who have no love towards each other or who are conflicting with each other, may live a life full of conflicts. Again, there can be exceptions here or there but a child always learns everything from his parents. If he sees his parents fighting then all he learns is to fight. If parents have no respect towards each other, they can't teach child to be respectful. Children are the most acute observers. They don't learn what we teach but they learn what they see us doing.

So, if you are going through relationship crisis then 1st look to improve the situation within yourself and postpone the child birth till the time there is love or respect among yourself else the child will be living a life in most case where he is just looking for some love or respect throughout life.

This is where I disagree with most of the motivational speakers and spiritual leaders who teach about giving good teachings or morals to children. I feel elders or parents should be taught to have all those morals and act as per those morals because then child will automatically observe it and receive those qualities in his life. It is but natural to take everything from parents as child look up on them. That's where I feel that parenthood is best time to correct yourself rather than your child.

Thanks,

SPB